Thursday, April 12, 2012

I'm Right, You're Wrong

Instead of a regular crafting post I wanted to write about something that affects anyone in a relationship.  Fights, arguments, discussions, time-outs - call them what you want - we all have them. You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to have an argument. This is true for friends, sisters, etc.

GB and I have a wonderful and loving relationship. I feel like I have really found my match with him. This is almost always a great thing, but it can also be a road block. He is stubborn and I am stubborn.

We recently had a big ole' "discussion" about something really silly. I leave my shoes out too much. I always take my shoes off when I take off my coat and put down my bag. GB has told me how much this drives him crazy. (It drives me crazy when he leaves his pajamas on the floor in the bathroom, right next to the laundry chute, but do I say anything? No, I do not.)

I knew I was right in my beliefs. Shoes are not a big deal. Who cares where I leave them? GB knew he was right. He's told me this before and I can't simply remember that he hates shoes in the kitchen or living room. Something as silly as shoes has created some intense conversations between us.

We have found ourselves in situations where we both believe so strongly that we are right and the other is wrong. We end up at a standstill and cross our arms. Then what?

A wonderful thing about the Internet, and especially Pinterest, is that I'm often stumbling upon quotes about life, love and everything in between. One that really resonated with me was something like, "Saying sorry doesn't mean you're right and they're wrong. It means you care more about your relationship than your ego."

This is one of the hardest things in the world to do. Saying sorry when I think he should be saying sorry is tough! Do I believe this should be done every time? Absolutely not. There are sometimes when it is too important to give up. But I really believe that the relationship as a whole is way more important than my own silly ego.

Are you able to do this?

GB and I both struggle with letting go of our egos because we are both so stubborn. But we're working on it.

I'm using today to reach out to you - my incredible readers - I want to know what you think. What do you do when you feel so strongly that you are right and the other person in your relationship is wrong? Do you apologize and admit fault sincerely or not, just to end the conversation? Do you hold out until the other person gives in? How do you move on?

I love having friendly, sincere conversations with my readers about recipes and crafts, but let's get serious today. Comment below and let me know what you think about stubbornness - the good, the bad, and the ugly.


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